Procrastinating Bridesmaids

You picked your favorite girls—the women who will be your bridal party and represent you on your big day! You have picked your favorite dresses. Everyone adores them. The colors look fantastic, the style will be flattering to everyone’s body type, and you are just sure everyone will get along. There is only one problem. They have not ordered their dresses, and the wedding is only a few months away! Why are they doing this to you, and what can you do about it?

Relax

The first thing you need to do is relax. Let go of the panic button. It may seem like the end of the world, but worse things can (and could) happen. It may seem like a tragedy, and yes, you do have a million other things to worry about. After all, you are planning a wedding. All they have to do is show up, be fitted and order a dress, right?

Don’t take it personal
The second thing you need to realize is that it is not personal. Your bridesmaids are not doing this because of something they are holding against you. Chances are they are not being malicious. There could be a variety of reasons as to why they are procrastinating in ordering the dress.

Ask!
The third thing you can do is to ask them. This is the fatal mistake with brides. Many brides wait, and wait (and wait) for their bridal party to be fitted and order the dress. Some members of the bridal party are not fitted, and there have been instances of the bride removing them from the wedding party. When asked why, the bride says, “I don’t know, I guess she didn’t want to be in my wedding. She never showed up for her fitting, so I had to replace/eliminate her.”

Is this a job? No. This is a time-honored event. If you take the time to ask a woman if she will stand up for you, then by all means take the time to ask her why she is not ordering a dress, or getting fitted. Maybe she is having financial difficulties. Maybe she is expecting, and does not feel comfortable in a dress. Maybe she is not expecting but does not feel comfortable in that role (many introverted people have lost friends due to the fact they are too embarrassed to be on display).

The bottom line? Be prepared to help any of your friends through this situation. Do not risk damaging life-long relationships, because you are on a schedule. Your day will be magnificent, and memorable. Hopefully, your bridesmaids will be too.